i hate that and i hate that whole ‘men are simple creatures’ notion. like nah. some men are incredibly complex. all men are people. like i think even men internalize that narrative which makes some of them so difficult to emotionally connect with because they blame everything on “being simple” and saying shit like “guys just need sex and silence while they watch the game” and it’s like nah? men need compassion and understanding and connection and vulnerability. they need friendship and someone who supports them and asks them tough questions and intellectually stimulates them. like i’m so over that shit from both sides. if we keep treating men like they’re emotional children and men keep acting like they’re emotional children we’re not gonna get anywhere. if you’re a man, i’m expecting you to be able to match me in every way. i’m not buying that you’re ‘simple’ and incapable of challenging yourself in any way that isn’t physical. i expect you to be conscientious, self-aware, vulnerable, and present. in tern i will treat you with the emotional complexity as i do my friends. i’ll ask you how you feel and offer support and work through problems with you and pick things apart and give you that in return.